{"id":15637,"date":"2020-04-06T17:15:30","date_gmt":"2020-04-06T22:15:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/?p=15637"},"modified":"2020-04-06T17:22:38","modified_gmt":"2020-04-06T22:22:38","slug":"4-things-to-evaluate-in-conflict","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/?p=15637","title":{"rendered":"4 Things to Evaluate in Conflict"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>As a counselor, I get to observe my share of conflicts. &nbsp;Frankly as a parent and church member, I get a close up view of conflict as well.<\/p>\n<p>Conflict seems to be a constant in our culture, homes, churches, and relationships.&nbsp; We may go through seasons of peace, but we never seem to completely outrun the long arm of conflict.&nbsp; Further, in times of crisis, conflicts may seem to be exponentially more frequent and difficult to solve.<\/p>\n<p>James 3:13-4:3 reveals four things we should evaluate as we experience conflict:<\/p>\n<p> <strong>#1 &ndash; Your Perspective (James 3:13-15)<\/strong> <\/p>\n<p>James starts with the question, &ldquo;who is wise and understanding among you?&rdquo;&nbsp; Think about the importance of this question.&nbsp; In conflict, we almost always see our perspective as truth, or the only right way.&nbsp; If we thought we were wrong or undeserving, we wouldn&rsquo;t persist in conflict for very long.<\/p>\n<p>James reminds us that in conflict, we are easily self-deceived by our strong desires and selfish perspective.&nbsp; He goes on to say that the wise person in conflict proves it by acting fairly, graciously, and wisely. &nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Key Question: Do you always think you are right in conflict?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p> <strong>#2 &ndash; Who You&rsquo;re Focused On (James<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As a counselor, I get to observe my share of conflicts. \u00a0Frankly as a parent and church member, I get a close up view of conflict as well. Conflict seems to be a constant in our culture, homes, churches, and relationships.\u00a0 We may go through seasons of peace, but we never seem to completely outrun the long arm of conflict.\u00a0 &#8230; Read More<br \/>\nThe post 4 Things to Evaluate in Conflict appeared first on Biblical Counseling Center.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":65,"featured_media":15639,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[868,800],"tags":[717,869,870],"class_list":["post-15637","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-biblical-counseling-center","category-selected-authors","tag-conflict","tag-for-those-giving-help","tag-for-those-seeking-hope","et-has-post-format-content","et_post_format-et-post-format-standard"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/biblicalcounselor.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/BCC-Favicon-150x150-1.png?fit=150%2C150&ssl=1","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15637","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/65"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=15637"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15637\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15640,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15637\/revisions\/15640"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/15639"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=15637"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=15637"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=15637"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}