That\u2019s an important phrase for counselors to learn to use. Too often, counselors tend to guess about a counselee\u2019s problems, thereby wasting his and their valuable time.<\/p>\n
\u201cGive me an example.\u201d<\/p>\n
It\u2019s like this. A counselee mentions something or other. Let\u2019s say an argument down at work that led to his firing. The counselor then begins to speculate, \u201cWas it like . . . ?\u201d And he describes a possible scenario. The counselee then says, \u201cNo.\u201d The counselor then describes a second possible scenario to which the counselee replies, \u201cWell . . . not exactly.\u201d And so on and on and on\u2014the counselor guessing about what might have happened. What a foolish waste of time! Yet, I\u2019ve heard trainees in role-plays do that very thing.<\/p>\n
\u201cWell, what should they do?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cClearly, they should let the counselee describe the happening by saying, \u2018Tell me about it.\u2019 After all, he\u2019s sitting there right in front of you. He was there when it happened. So, let him be the one who recounts what took place.<\/p>\n
\u201c But what if he gives you a slanted account, in favor of himself?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThat\u2019s a genuine possibility. You will soon discover whether or not his account is<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
That\u2019s an important phrase for counselors to learn to use. Too often, counselors tend to guess about a counselee\u2019s problems, thereby wasting his and their valuable time. \u201cGive me an example.\u201d It\u2019s like this. A counselee mentions something or other. Let\u2019s say an argument down at work that led to his firing. The counselor then …
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