{"id":78135,"date":"2024-06-13T01:00:05","date_gmt":"2024-06-13T06:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/?p=78135"},"modified":"2024-06-13T01:16:26","modified_gmt":"2024-06-13T06:16:26","slug":"silence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/biblicalcounselor.com\/?p=78135","title":{"rendered":"Silence"},"content":{"rendered":"

I spent most of my adult life hating silence\u2014and didn\u2019t know it.<\/p>\n

It was a major blind spot. I always dismissed my desire to be with people and avoid being alone as due to me being an extrovert and loving people. I excused my talkative nature as a sign of heightened relational instincts. These qualities also seemed to help my interactions with people as a pastor, so I thought nothing more of it. It wasn\u2019t until I began my own counseling journey out of a crisis that I was confronted with this long-held deception.\u00a0<\/p>\n

My counselor observed some behavior in my life that went unnoticed by most but became flags of concern for him. He saw that I ran from being alone. He realized I was uncomfortable in silence and didn\u2019t know how to face it. He experienced the way I often dominated conversations with my words. This also exposed my terrible listening skills. \u00a0<\/p>\n

As a result, he began to press me in this area\u2014and it was difficult. Silence exposes the soul. Ugly things surfaced that I was not ready to face. At one stage it felt as though I had imploded. But<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Silence is a catalyst for care for one\u2019s soul and for combating a noisy, hurried ministry.\u00a0
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