How do you get off the phone when the other person speaks without a pause and you have work that needs to get done? Have you ever heard yourself saying “yes” and are already kicking yourself for saying it?
What are wise boundaries? Some version of this is the most common question I receive as a CCEF instructor. Students take counseling courses because they love people and want to care for them even better. Most of them, however, are already neck-deep in ministry; during a course they deepen some of those relationships and add a few more. And they wonder if the trend toward more and deeper conversations can continue much longer.
You already know some of the questions to ask: Do I think I am that necessary? Am I afraid to disappoint people? Have I been able to set priorities for how I use my time? Do I know that every yes is a no to something or someone else? Have I learned from the cost of my yesses in the past?
These questions are important and point us in a good direction, but saying “no,” like everything else that calls for wisdom, is complicated. The idea of sacrificial
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