Unless you’re doing premarital counseling, counselees are mainly coming in with some kind of problem or suffering. In general, that means that there is something very tangible that the counselee wants to change. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they want to change, but they definitely want something to change.
For example, when a couple comes in for marriage counseling, they both want something to change. It may be that one spouse likes the way things are, and what they would like to change is their spouse’s view that something needs to change. Or both spouses might recognize there are issues and they want things to be different, but that doesn’t mean they themselves want to make changes.
But let’s say you have a married couple that comes in and they actually both want to change and know they need to change. Does that mean that you have a couple that is God-centered in their pursuit of change? Not necessarily. They could be focusing on changing for their spouse. But scripture is clear that “whether we are at home or away, we make it our aim to please to him” (2 Cor. 5:9). In other words, whether we are dead or
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