I received a phone call the other day from Sue, a former counselee. Sue was devastated as she tearfully said, “Bob just admitted to me that he is not a believer… He told me that he said whatever I wanted to hear so I would marry him. Now he’s trying to get me to stop going to church, and he criticizes and demeans me whenever I mention Jesus.”
Just a year ago I spent eight weeks with this couple in pre-marital counseling. How could I have missed that Bob was not saved?
In pre-marital counseling we specifically talked about each of their conversions, their compatibility, their roles as husband and wife, and the purpose of marriage. Throughout the sessions we discussed their future together, their desires, children, and their responsibilities to each other as a married couple. In addition, we had detailed and ongoing conversations about faith, about their commitment to Christ, and about their role in the church.
Yet, this man seemed to have deceived us. He was so convincing that he fooled both his wife and me. He knew the Scriptures, he knew how to manipulate our conversations that hid his true motives, and he claimed to be
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