*Today’s post is written by Nate Brooks and Anna Mondal, authors of the brand new mini-book Help! Our Sex Life Is Troubled By Past Abuse.
The next time you’re at church, take a look around. If the statistics hold true, twenty-five percent of the adults in the room either have been, are, or will become victims of sexual abuse.[1] The majority of worshipers will not be in abusive relationships at the present time, but the pain of sexual violation doesn’t go away when the abuse stops. Dark shadows continue to be cast into the present.
God designed marriage to be a sharing of the fullness of yourself with another as two become one. This divine design means that the hurts and the horrors from the past naturally affect both spouses. No husband or wife can ever look at their spouse and say that challenges arising from sexual abuse is “your issue.” As soon as vows are exchanged, these challenges become “our issue.” If you are an abuse survivor’s spouse, you have the chance to image Christ as you “weep with those who weep” (Romans 12:15) and “remember…the mistreated, as though you yourselves were suffering bodily” (Hebrews 13:3). You have
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