A young man walked into my office frustrated that he failed again and had another bad breakup after another instance of wandering eyes. “Why can’t I just be satisfied with my partner? She was a quality girl, and I blew it up!”
What kind of counsel or advice is helpful to a young man in this situation?
Consider the different approaches that could be found in response to a young man with a wandering eye or propensity to cheat. He could easily find advice that would:
Normalize it – Men are predisposed to cheat, and it’s easily proven by evidence, anecdote, and history. Understand yourself and only change if you want to. Accept it – Your biology isn’t wired for monogamy, and you likely won’t be satisfied with a traditional relationship. Just accept that fact. Moderate it – The problem is that you are breaking trust. Instead, you need to be open about what you are doing and find someone who is ok with that. Challenge it – The lifestyle you are leading isn’t proven to make people happy or healthy. Review the research, and you will conclude that vanilla relationships are actually the most rewarding.
From a Christian worldview, all the above answers are
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